Try and think of the enormous amount of “real” lifetime you have blown and wasted in a fake world. It’s frightening and alarming. The biggest mind-fu#* is the interaction with other “real” people sitting behind computers all over the world. Their sincerity and the ones who run virtual businesses. The people who have virtual careers and operate virtual communities. They have lavish virtual homes and virtual marriages. It’s all so enticing and just like real life we aspire to have the perfect second life. It’s completely demented. I have realized and it took a lot of drama, crap and thousands upon thousands of “real” dollars blown, that it’s EXACTLY the same as real life, just visually more stimulating. That said, there is one significant difference, people in Second Life can lie and lie and lie some more. They are rarely who they portray or say they are in real life. There are no “real” consequences to the things they say or indulge in. This makes such a place very dangerous for our inner spirit and our innate sense of what’s right and/or wrong.

I am horrified at the level I allowed this “game” to suck me in. I had it all in Second Life. I had my own island paradise, mansion filled with amazing things (prims up the wazoo), exotic animals, an inventory of clothes any real life princess would envy, a fabulous job modeling, fame and a husband. I stayed up until 2:00am playing and woke up groggy at 8:00am to log on and play. It took my “husband” cheating on me (virtually of course) to finally start waking me up from this dream (nightmare). I left for two months and actually was relieved and happy again, reconnecting with my real life. However, my mind kept wandering back to my Second Life. I missed playing dress up and teleporting around to hob knob with my “friends.” I began to crave the accolades and success I had found in there modeling. So foolishly, I jumped back in and spent more crazy money. One day I went to pay my mortgage and didn’t have enough money. I got so scared and though it still haunts me I cancelled my primary account (and my alts). I struggle every time real life gets tough not to “escape” back into that crap.

The long and short of it…..you can do it! You have two choices: 1. Keep playing and “pretending.” 2. Cancel your Second Life account immediately and never look back! Get on with your real life and find happiness with things you can touch, smell and taste! Good luck Kendra:)

I’ve been on SL for like 5 or 6 months now, and yea I’ll admit I’m pretty addicted, but I know RL always comes first.
A few things to help somebody survive secondlife; Get an sl job, it stops you from spending alot of RL money online. Be careful who you talk to and don’t just add them to your friends after a small encounter. Make sure you see somebody on webcam before you meet IRL.

However, I love secondlife because I met my RL boyfriend on there ^-^